Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely duties. You will need to really know when she needs to be fixed.
When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells on Children, can’t easily sleep or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with something you are not careful enough to see.A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without fixing her and making her better and happy.
If you discover your wife is falling apart, these are proven guildlines that can fix her:
1. CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM
You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you, she may not want to tell you. It’s your duty to persuade her to her talk sincerely and truly.
2. BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES
Get to know how if her workload is killing her, regardless of whether she stays at home or goes to work.
You wouldn’t know her routine of of work each day If you don’t, ask her. Probably her “to-do” list is overflowing with tasks that far outweighs her time and energy.
3. BE APPRECIATIVE
You have to be mindful of her needs and appreciate her sacrifices. The work a woman does at home can be too common that nobody will appreciate her, this may be killing her within. Appreciate your wife
4. GET INVOLVED BEFORE SHE BURNS OUT
Don’t just be appreciative, but get involved. The best time to begin helping your wife is now. Don’t wait until she breaks down to offer a helping hand.
5. GET MACHINES
Get all the machine needed for her work at home (the ones you can afford). Dish washer, gas cooker, refrigerator, oven, laundry machine, etc
6. BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT
Be totally involved at home, stop delegating parenting and family life to her alone, don’t be a “visiting Professor”, be an active partner in this business of your married life. It takes two to make a marriage work, It takes two to run a household, so be fully involved in every aspect of your family.
7. HOLD HER
Hold her like a lover and a friend and place your hands on her shoulder, her hips, hold her hands, let her feel your presence…..touch her.
8. BE A LISTENER
Men are known to be good in talking but very bad listeners. At times what your wife needs is for you to just listen. Do not interrupt her while she speaks, allow her unburden her mind to you. Sometimes the best way for a woman to reset is by getting all of her thoughts out.
Let your wife talk through her feelings and problems. Show empathy, listen carefully and ask questions. Be fully engaged in the conversation.
9. BE A PARTNER NOT A TEACHER
Most men do fall into the “Teaching trap” when they are supposed to be a partner, showing love and consideration.
Do not play the blame game, be there for her and just listen. That’s all you need to do and if she wants you to offer solutions, she’ll surely ask.
10. GIVE HER HOPE
No matter what happens, don’t ever raise up your hands in surrender, giving up, crying or weeping will hurt your wife even more.
You should be the source of her Encouragement by letting her know she is a strong woman and that’s what you love about her. Help her see the good in any situation, avoid being critical or negative.
When she has hit the rock bottom, be the man who lifts her up, and brings light and hope back into her life.
11. BE SENSITIVE
Get to know her mood, get to know her needs, get to know what is needed to be done at home and do them without being prompted.
Learn the art of looking around the house and finding things that needed to get done. Are there dishes in the sink? What is broken that needs to be fixed? Don’t wait to be asked. Just do it!
12. PRAY FOR HER
Take your time off to pray for her, hand her over to her maker who knows the deepest need of her heart . Let God also fix her.
Let God know what you appreciate about her. Ask for his help. Ask him to tell you how you can be a better spouse to her. Ask him to comfort her and help her see herself as He sees her.
13. PRAY WITH HER
Don’t just pray for your wife, find time to pray with her, hug her as you pray together, hold her hands, know what you can do to help her reset. Ask her questions. She will open up to you, it may not be what you think, so don’t speculate, ask, she’ll appreciate it more than you will ever know.
15. HELP AROUND THE HOUSE
Give a helping hand around the house. Give her a kitchen holiday for some days, do all the cooking or hire somebody to do it for you. Let her just sit, eat and rest, this may be all she needs.
16. TAKE HER OUT
Take her out, eat out, go to the cinema, go to wherever she will love to go, not where you want, just follow her.
17. ALLOW HER TO CRY, IF SHE MUST
“Stop crying, are you a baby?, will you be crying about this little thing?” This is what most husband do when their wife cries. If she feels like crying, hold her to yourself and let her do the crying while you pat her on the back. It’s a great way to fix her.
18. LET HER GO ON HOLIDAY
Allow her to go on holiday to rest all alone to herself, or both of you can go on holiday together where she will be able to rest… this can fix the problem as she returns with greater energy.
19. CELEBRATE HER
Let your wife be celebrated. Celebrate her in secret and in public. Talk about her beauty, motherhood, wife hood, support, thoughtfulness. This will make her day.
Men read and apply….
Women read and share to your man.