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H@RDC0R£! ‘I Masturbated About 30 Times And Had S3x 10 Times Daily’ – Addict.
The uncontrollable urge to have s3x is one that turns many into addicts, destroying their mental health, jobs, and even careers in the process. This is the case of ‘Kate’ (not her real name) who was interviewed by Refinery29 on her life as a s3x-addict who has battled the condition since her teenage years.
Kate who was only 29 years last year shared her experience of living with s3x addiction. According to her, she was sl££ping with both men and women alike for a minimum of 10 times a day during the peak of her addiction.
Read Kate’s story below:
“I struggled with eating disorders – anorexia and bulimia – and drug addiction in the past. The trauma led to me having a massive disconnect between my mind and body. It didn’t feel like my body was mine and having s3x was a reprieve. It’s like drugs, you’re switched off from reality.
“It’s hard to pinpoint the age I was when I first showed symptoms of s3x addiction, but by my mid to late teens, I realized my s3xual behaviour wasn’t the same as my peers.
“S3x was never about me wanting to feel connected to someone. I was also much riskier – most teenagers go through a phase of wanting to try everything, but I would sleep with men, women, it really didn’t matter. It wasn’t about attraction, it was about achieving an objective.
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“During a typical day at the height of my addiction, if I had my way I would’ve had s3x continually, especially when I quit drugs at 19 because at that point s3x was the only thing left that I could use to avoid thinking. I’d wank or f*ck all day to stop myself from thinking.
“At the height of my addiction, I masturbated about 30 times and had s3x at least 10 times a day. I even masturbated in the toilets at work, but I don’t know whether that was because I was young or because of my addiction.
“S3x seemed like this amazing thing that wasn’t going to kill me like the drugs, it burned calories, stopped me from eating and also switched off my head. I had very, very few reasons not to do it.
“I’ve had about 10 proper relationships, but I’ve probably slept with about 40 people in total, maybe more. Any boyfriends I had, I was half in, half out, and I wasn’t really present.
“I assumed guys would never mind that I wanted s3x all the time, but some of them did. They realized that, for me, s3x was never about connection. I wanted very rough s3x, I wanted to push limits, I wanted to feel powerless in the situation but by choice.
“Therapy was helpful in making me look at my problems. Previously I hadn’t looked at the pattern of what had happened to me and led to my addiction, but in therapy I had to write down the different ways I’d harmed myself, which wasn’t something I’d never really considered, and the harm it has caused me and others.
“I’m in a happy relationship now, which is very real and honest compared to anything I’ve had before. It’s made me realize what my previous relationships were lacking and what I wasn’t giving to past partners, how I wasn’t being open or feeling safe.
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“In terms of the s3x, I’m never going to be someone who’s happy having s3x just once a week, but I’m no longer obsessive. If I’m working I still masturbate every day and if I have the day off I still have s3x three times, so I definitely enjoy s3x.
“If my partner and I lived together we’d have s3x at least once a day, every day, and ideally a couple of times a day. As it stands, we have s3x on average four or five times a week.
“When you’re addicted to s3x you often need to masturbate all day or have s3x all day and it has nothing to do with the other person. A healthy relationship with s3x involves the other person, it’s about being connected to them, while for me it used to be about being detached from myself and everyone else.
“My current partner knows everything about my history with addiction. Telling him made it easier for me to see a counsellor because I’d never really looked at the traumatic things that had happened to me and I don’t think I would’ve been able to work through them if I didn’t feel safe enough to have that discussion with someone.
What do you thin about Kate’s story.
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