My 8-Year-Old Daughter Gets Jealous Whenever I Sleep With Her Dad.
I have an 8-year-old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and my husband. Some days ago she almost caught me and my husband getting down, you know what I mean.
So in the morning, she asked her dad what he was doing to me…lol. Most times her dad hugs and kisses me in front of her and does the same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal life. Sometimes, when my husband hugs me before her, she gets jealous..lol
I think we made a mistake in not allowing her to get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on the same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2 am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my husband to allow her into our room.
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We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially the married couples with kids)
1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 8?
2. Is it too late to force her to her room?
3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?
4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.
5. Is her jealousy normal?
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Check out some responses:
“Anyway… Na better beating go correct any error… Our fathers and mother’s no teach us any other way to correct pikin pass flogging.”
“By the time u flog her better flog she go understand… Say she get her own room”
“Yes, this is where you guys missed it. She should have been introduced to her room by age 3 at the latest.”
“Never, it can’t be too late. It’s time to let her know who’s in charge and the boss.”
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“Kids are like “puppies or dogs”. They play on your intelligence and patience to an elasticity and should you fall for the ” blink-first” game, you’d remain their puppy and always at their mercy.”
“Introduce her to her room, make her understand she’s a big girl now and needs to act like one. The best person to implement this should be you. The trick should be to spend time with her gisting and telling her stories until she falls asleep. She’d rebel for a while but after a while, she’d eventually get used to it.”
If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth?
“She shouldn’t be encouraged or given any reason to ask such ” adult” questions. However, in a case where you both get careless and she stumbles in on you, if you weren’t caught in your “birthday suites” just tell her you and daddy were praying.”
Feel free to add your own opinion in the comment section below this post.
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