How to win any friend over, either male or female, you must understand the fine-art of friendship and inculcate them in your everyday life.
Have you ever sat down and visualize how people think, behave or do the things they do? You’ll definitely realize that God is so great and diverse in HIS ways. We have about 7 Billion people living in this world, and each and everyone have a distinct characteristic that distinguishes them from another.
You see everyone on this planet earth possess a trait which is only specific to them.
Awesome isn’t it? Knowing you are dynamic and there’s only one copy of you on earth, no one is like you. Although there may be someone out there who looks exactly like you (doppelganger), yet something must be different.
In order to understand how to win any friend over, you need to appreciate the uniqueness and diversity of humanity first.
I use to have this acquaintance that stayed some blocks away from my flat. I really liked her and have thought of ways to make her my friend. She’s the kind that keeps distance always on a rush each time I see her. Obviously you can tell she wants nothing to do with a stranger, she’s always keeping that long face and never talks to anyone.
So I brought my box of The Fine-Art of Friendship, don’t ask me what the box contains lol, I rolled out some tricks on how to win her over.
On one faithful day, I approached her while she was returning back from work.
“Hello good day” she paused for some seconds and gave me that long face
“My name is Mr Wealth and I realize you stay the next flat close to mine, how come you never talk to anyone” She fawned, just what I expected.
“Please I’m in a rush, can’t really talk now, maybe some other time”, she said and walked away.
Haha, now I know why she acted the way she did, it’s her temperament, she’s not rude, but just shy and can’t stand the presence of a stranger or should I say a nice guy.
I would tell you how I won her friendship later on.
The point I want to make here is that you need to realize that all your friends cannot think or act the way you do, it is very imperative to understand their temperament.
Study your friends and decipher how they think and behave, then you can penetrate and win them over. You need to understand how they think and act, what they love and how they react in different situations.
In studying a friend you want to win over, one key factor that has to be taken into cognizance is ‘their weakness.’
All men on earth have their weakness. Even the Great SAMSON in the bible had his weakness.
You may be thinking why should I study my friend’s weakness?
It’s normal to think this way. As humans, most times the bad ones among us use the weakness of others to plot their downfall and evil.
Have you ever thought of what happens if we use the weakness of people to plot their success?
Let me illustrate…
Let’s say for example, you observed your friend likes gambling, this is his weak point, he throws away money on gambling. Instead of using his weak point constructively by encouraging him to stop, or suggest a business he can invest money and make 100% profit (that’s the rationale behind gambling, doubling your money right), you rather watch him waste that money in a bid to become a millionaire overnight.
I often wonder, what is the possibility of winning $10 Million with just $10?
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