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To wield the power to influence people, you must be willing to go extra miles.
There are some characteristic and trait you have to inculcate in you in order to posse the power of influencing people most especially your friends.
These traits would be discussed as we move on.
This fact cannot be altered; “some people are born-leaders while some others are made-leaders.”
People who are born into a monarch family like the “prince and princesses” are automatically born-leaders irrespectively of whether they wish for it or not. The inherent genes are passed to them by their parents, so naturally they have the carriage and charisma to influence people.
For this set of people, the purpose of this article might not favour them, because they already posses an embedded leadership skills and influential tendency.
However, for those who wish to wield the power to influence people’s decision, these characteristic have to be considered and inculcated in your approach of life.
HOW CAN I INFLUENCE PEOPLE?
- To influence people, you need to have something they want
This point is at the highest hierarchy, reason being that:
“People get attracted to you naturally for different reasons; some could be as a result of your charisma, looks, character, money, etc. If you wish to have a strong impact on them and influence their decision, you need to posses something that attracts them to you.”
Have you observed little babies get comfortable and happy when they play with well-dressed people but cry when an ugly looking fellow plays with them?
Yes I have seen this happen…
The same thing applies to people, to have that power of influence you need to give them something in return, “it’s the glaring truth.” You can’t wield the power to influence people when you have nothing to offer in return. “Life is an exchange”, “if you need respect, you have to earn it, like money.” You can’t influence someone who doesn’t respect you.
- Have the ability to give willingly without expecting something in return
It doesn’t just stop at having what people want as mentioned above, you also need to have the ability to give willingly without demanding something in return.
In my future post I will be writing on “The Power of Giving”, here I will show you how giving aids living.
The giving hands is always at the top, while the receiving hands is bellow, whenever you give a man something, he is automatically indebted and loyal to you. You can choose to demand that debt anytime. This is why it is always blessed to give than to receive.
To influence people, you have to be a dangerous giver, who gives without expecting anything in return.
- Act like the shepherd not the sheep
The act of influencing people doesn’t consider age, just like age is not a factor when it comes to leadership and followership.
I have seen in many occasions where a family’s business right was handed down to the younger son instead of the older one to manage by the father.
Now some people will see this as an error!
Apparently, the father considered the younger son more influential than the elder son…