YOUR MARRIAGE IS NOT A MISTAKE, THIS IS THE MISTAKE
Most of the time when marriage is in trouble, people tend to see their Marriage as a mistake. They regret marrying the person they Married, they think of new deal, they imagined marrying their ex, they fantasize marrying another person. They want to correct their Mistake, so they think.
Some divorced and remarried and but later wish they remain with their first Spouse, as they find greater trouble in the new Spouse, this is because the first Marriage is not a Mistake, they’ve not discover the mistake.
When a Car has flat Tyre we do not abandon the Car, but change the Tyre and move on. When we have headache, no matter how excruciating, we do not cut the head but take care of the headache. When a Bulb blows out in the room we do not change the room or the House, we replace the Bulb and light the room. When we have challenges at Work, we do not refuse to go to work, we go there to solve the problem.
But when marriage has issue, we try to change the Spouse instead of changing the attitude, so we end up going in cycle.
Most a time, we see some couples enjoying their marriages and enjoying each other to the fullness and we admire and cherish them, but the opposite is seen in our own marriage. The reason is that some worked on their marriage by paying the necessary prize and that is why they are enjoying the fruits of their labor. It is said, “The way you make your bed is the way you will lay on it”. Your marriage is good or sweet as you make it.
Some couples, because of the negative things they are seeing in their marriage, they accuse each other of being responsible. They point accusing fingers at each other of being responsible. Some even say many bad things about their spouse even calling him or her a witch or wizard; some think that marrying that man or the woman was a mistake. It is not so, your marriage was not a mistake, but you are the mistake.
Your habits is the mistake, Your character is the mistake, Your manner, unforgiveness, Anger, Laziness, lack of Love, Lack of affection, lack of attention Busyness, impatience, bitterness selfishness, ignorance, stinginess, not being considerate, infidelity, lovelessness are the Mistakes.
So get up now your marriage is not a mistake.
WORK ON YOUR MARRIAGE IF YOU WANT YOUR MARRIAGE TO WORK.
By Bisi Adewale
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